Codependency A Common Factor In Addicted Families

Codependency a common factor in addicted families
Let's just get through it becomes a need. You’re a juggler and you assume this role perfectly. You can clean up chaos, dysfunction, and disorder within the family, you manage endless family incidents, and while you are moving you feel that life is ok. And life falls in place most of the time, so you think! You’ve got a handle on all situations.
If your husband/wife would just stop drinking, your house would become a home. His/her children need their father/mother, the are growing up. It’s easy: he/she should just stop drinking. You take action, both lovingly and in an angry manner. But your husband/wife doesn’t listen – he/she continues. So you lash out. Before you know it private arguments become school counselor sessions, explanations to the police and involvement of those you were trying to keep the issue from. However, you can take care of that, too – so you feel!
Perhaps the above scenarios are similar to your life?
Codependency has been defined as a dysfunctional style of relating to others. Codependency symptoms feel overwhelming, and those who suffer from it are incapable of taking care of themselves because they are constantly trying to fix and handle issues. Codependents make unsuccessful attempts to change circumstances in their surroundings. They may feel that money can cure substance abuse, or long talks prevent psychological illness. A new car, computer, or a new home will change a person’s outlook and will get them to do what the codependent feels are the correct way of life. The challenge for a codependent is believing their means, or their personal motivation will encourage their loved ones to change. They create emotional intimacy inappropriately, parental child best friendships, disassociating from their community and turning all interaction inwards within the family. Regardless of their attempts for success, codependents are self-destructing, exhausted, and feel defeated; and most often don’t feel that they need help. Staying in their skin seems impossible and their symptoms escalate and frequently leads to families splitting. Often codependents fall sick due to lack of self-care. Recognizing that overcoming codependency requires professional help is essential.
In order to address codependency in treatment, it is essential to address self-care, self-awareness, as well as co-occurring substance abuse, and other mental health disorders such as depression disorders and anxiety disorders. Recognizing that healing can start with oneself is half the work. 
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Samar Tehrani